excalibur posted:El-Ka-Bong posted:excalibur posted:The "previous regime" wasted the prime of Aaron Rodgers.
your "I was right" desire nearly outshines the same disposition in my wife
nearly.
So you don't believe that the "previous regime" didn't waste the prime of AR?
I am a highly successful businessman with a smoke show wife. However, it wasn’t always that way. We’ve been through our ups and downs. We met in 2008 and I broke up with my girlfriend who at the time I thought was “the one”. She ended up being a whore quite frankly and I’m glad we moved on as it gave me an opportunity to fully realize the potential of my current bride. I’ve since reconciled with my old flame, but there’s always that part of me who doesn’t trust her for all the shit she put me through. She acts like none of that stuff ever happened. “Time heals all wounds” what a bunch of bullshit. I regress, as that relationship is a whole other conversation.
Look, over the past 10 years I’ve experienced a ton of joys (we welcomed a trophy of a child in 2011), along with some pretty difficult valleys (heartbreaking business losses nearly derailed my family unit which climaxed in 2014). But they were years that a I would never trade back because I think that’s life and these were all experiences I needed to live through to make me who I am today.
This past January after experiencing a horrendous year both personally and professionally me and smoke show were forced to look at ourselves in the mirror and make some major life altering decisions that we realized had made us obtuse and too comfortable. Quite frankly we were no longer growing in our relationship. You fall into “safe” habits that impede growth. We split from our long term support group of friends and some family members who were responsible for cultivating our relationship and helping me realize my dream of being a highly successful businessman. I was tempted to look back on those friends and family and those years and say “what if?” What if I had different friends and family who had pushed me even harder to reach my goals? What if they were more aggressive in pointing out relationship flaws that were staring me right in the face? Would I have been able to realize more of my potential and had the ability to be even a MORE successful businessman??
Then through much therapy I realized this is a shitty way to live life. Always looking at perceived wasted opportunities that I experienced. I’ve come to the realization that I’ve lived an extrordinary life over the past 10 years since I met my smokeshow wife. I’ve carried on the tradition of my family name that has stood since they immigrated here in 1920’s. Are there things I wish I could change? Of course, but I’m at a better place in my life now with a new support group who have forced me to be more aggressive in realizing my full potential. I have no idea how this will play out, but I can tell you me and smoke show are looking ahead now and not in our past. We are even hopeful to add to the family with some new trophy kids
I realize that it’s important to to look ahead and not behind. Learn from my successes and my failures. That’s part of life. I feel sorry for losers who live in the past and always think “what if” and feel like they never reached their potential. I think they are the type of individuals who always need to be right in their own minds and build themselves up by living this way. I’m in a good place now, and the future is limitless. I no longer say “what if” but instead “what now?” It’s a great way to live life. You should try it.